Affection for others

When one has affection for beings other than the Lord, that is, for worldly objects1, and so forth, it is called dwait (otherness) in Sanskrit.

There is mention of this in Gurbani. It is said that in the material universe constant change and evil tendencies are to be found everywhere, and the people are restless because of their bondage to those tendencies but they do not realise it.

All are engaged in the activities of the world and love of otherness; Pandits2 are in bondage to attachment and do not know the nature of illusion. These are obstructions due to their love of Maya.

Sri Rag M3, 23

In the field of the world the feeling of otherness is strong.

Three forces (Brahma, the creator, Vishnu, the preserver, and Mahesh, the destroyer) are working within the law of the Lord.

Everyone is entangled in their net of worldly attachments and is afraid of them. No one turns away from them and looks to his real Creator and Sustainer, the Lord.

He created otherness through the activity of the three gunas; Brahma, Vishnu and Mahesh were created and carry out His will.

Ramkali War M3, 948

Until one reaches the fourth stage3 which is beyond the sphere of the three gunas, and this can be attained only by meeting the Master, the daily routine of his life, together with worship, fasts and self-discipline, keeps him in the sphere of otherness.

Fasts, rules of conduct and daily worship lead to the love of otherness and do not bring real insight.

Belawal M3, 841

Beyond Trikuti one meets the Master; the door of salvation is in the fourth Stage.

Sri Rag War M3, 33-12

People forget the Creator and become entangled in his creation and forget death.

He loves the creation and not the Creator; he does not think of death.

Dhanasri M3, 676-9

Owing to the feeling of otherness no love is developed, and one forgets the feet of the Lord and never even thinks of them. Owing to ignorance one gets involved in the cycle of death and birth.

The love of otherness makes one forget the holy feet of the Lord; oh Life Sustainer of the Universe! Remove the sufferings of Thy servant.

Belawal M3, 796

The ignorant bride is full of ego, and so is born again and again. She does not love the Lord, because her mind is attached to the other.

Suhi M4, 732-1

As long as the feeling of otherness is present in the heart, repetitions, austerities, fasts and worship are of no help. Repetitions, austerities, fasts or worship do not help the one in whose mind there is love for others.

Kabir, Gauri, 324-12

According to the Gurbani, those who ignore the Lord, who are entangled in love for illusory and perishable objects, and who indulge in false conduct and eat unclean things, should be classed as dogs and pigs. They die while barking, and find no place in the court of the Master.

He who is false is like a pig or dog; he dies barking in fear. He is false of body and heart and indulges in falsehood, and receives no place in His court.

Maru M1, 1029-17

The feeling of otherness can be removed only by loving the Master and practising Naam. There is no other method. By this method one becomes attached to the feet of the Lord and redeems himself.

Those who commune with the Master, their love of otherness disappears;

Their light is pure; their life is redeemed.

Sri Rag M1, 73


Footnote: 1) Object to which interest, thinking, action is directed; independently of consciousness existing appearance of the material world, to which cognition, perception is directed.

2) Pandit: Brahmanic scholar; bearer of this title.

3) Sohang (Bhanwar Gupha). Bhanwar Gupha is the fourth Inner Plane in which the ego is dissolved.

The plane which Maulana Rumi had reached and there listened in God-intoxication to the Holy Naam, which is audible there as the sound of a flute.